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Want deeper love + hotter sex in 2026?
Forget resolutions.
The New Year, New Us: 21 Day Relationship Refresh is your invitation to reset how you connect, communicate, and turn each other on.
This January, sPARK a revelation in your bedroom and your relationship.
Reflect on what made 2025 unforgettable, dream up what you want next, and design your hottest, happiest year together.
We’ve created a simple framework and daily rhythm you can use to build the kind of habits that are the biggest success indicators of having a healthy, hot relationship for the long haul.
in just a few minutes a day
...that take you deeper...
I WANT DEEPER LOVE + HOTTER SEX!
21 days. 2 people. 1 unforgettable refresh.
Unlock this challenge and our entire library of intimacy resources when you join Deeper.
Intentional activities
A short weekly audio
a shared journal
Not sexy.
January is the one time of year when everyone’s focused on “self-improvement.” But let’s be honest… most of it kinda sucks.
Cut this out.
Stop doing that.
Fix yourself.
Be more disciplined, more productive, more… whatever.
But here’s the thing we know for sure:
Make 2026 your sexiest year yet 🔥
Your relationship is the one area of your life where adding more of what feels good — more connection, more conversation, more touch, more pleasure — actually makes everything better.
And that’s why we created the New Year, New Us: 21 Day Relationship Refresh.
This is the part of your life that sets the tone for all the rest… how supported you feel, how you handle stress, how connected you are to pleasure, and to possibility.
Because when your relationship feels good, everything else does too.
This isn’t a list of guilt-soaked “shoulds” you’ll abandon by February.
It’s a guided reset that helps you reconnect, dream bigger, and turn each other on in ways you’ll actually stick with
all year. (No deprivation
required.)
Just simple, doable practices that actually make you feel closer… and make your whole year feel easier, lighter, happier, and way sexier.
better communication
more connection
hotter sex
less stress
way more fun
better communication more connection hotter sex
less stress way more fun
We Want The Refresh!
Because this year, your relationship is where the real transformation happens.
What’s inside the refresh
It’s simple, sexy, and actually doable… no matter what 2026 throws at you!
A private space to write directly to your partner, reflect on your year, dream up what you want next, and create a relationship time capsule you’ll exchange at the end.
Your printable New Year, New Us Workbook
Therapist-created questions designed to spark reflection, conversation, connection, and “oh damn, I didn’t know you felt that way” moments. Just 5 minutes a day.
21 daily reset questions (one per day)
A short, intimate 2–5 minute recording to set the theme and guide your focus for the week.
1 weekly audio from Vanessa & Xander
LET’S START OUR 21 DAY REFRESH
It all adds up to a doable daily rhythm you can actually stick to. A few minutes a day, with deeper moments whenever you want to go further. It fits into your real life and your real schedules.
In just 21 days, you’ll be clearer, closer, and way more turned on by the year you’re about to create together.
Here's what you'll get...
Optional 20–30 minute deeper exercises for planning, visioning, and mapping out your dream year together. Do them anytime — during the refresh or after.
A weekly deep dive activity (great for date nights too 😉)
Here’s how it works:
You’ll use your daily reset questions and workbook pages to revisit the moments that mattered in 2025 — the things that made you feel connected, cared for, supported, or turned on. It’s a gentle, grounding week that helps you remember what works… and what you want more of.
The weekly audio sets the tone, and the deep-dive activity maps what you want to carry forward into 2026!
This week feels grounding, nostalgic, sweet, and so clarifying.
Reflect — Look back at your year together
week 1
This week is all about emotional intimacy and intention. The weekly audio gives you a shared intention, and your daily questions guide you both into feeling seen, appreciated, and understood again. The optional deeper activity becomes a “state of the union” moment that gets you clear on what you’re building together this year.
This week feels hopeful, soft, and deeply bonding — like you’re finally on the same page again.
Connection Refresh — Design your dream relationship
week 2
This is your space to talk about desire, touch, pleasure, and the little things that make intimacy feel exciting again. Your questions this week spark honest conversations about what turns you on, what opens you up, and what helps you feel connected and confident in bed.
The workbook helps you articulate what you want more of and the deep-dive activity helps you design the sex life you’re ready for in 2026!
This week feels energizing, brave, playful… and really hot.
Sex Refresh — Ignite Your Hottest Year Yet
week 3
Why this works
Because real intimacy isn’t built on giant life overhauls. It’s built on small, consistent moments of connection.
Our 21-day therapist-created framework moves you from reflection… to connection… to desire and creates a natural rhythm that brings you closer in ways you can actually feel.
The daily reset questions help you slow down and tune into each other again. A few minutes a day is enough to shift the entire tone of your relationship.
Your workbook reflections help you process what you’re feeling before you talk, so you show up calmer and clearer.
This refresh works because it’s intentional, simple, and rooted in research about how couples actually thrive:
- You reduce stress by feeling supported, not alone.
- You communicate more clearly (and with less defensiveness).
- You feel more appreciated, desired, and connected.
- You rebuild trust and emotional safety.
- You create more chances for affection, intimacy, and heat.
Because when connection feels easy, desire follows.
And that’s exactly why the New Year, New Us Refresh lives inside our Deeper membership.
The refresh gives you the spark.
Deeper keeps the fire going.
If you’re the kind of couple who wants more… more connection, more desire, more ease, more play… then this is where you belong.
The 21-Day Relationship Refresh kicks off January 5th, 2026!
Ready to start your New Year, New Us Refresh?
When you join Deeper, you’ll get:
...for a relationship that feels alive, connected, and sexy.
Everything you need...
Share wins, ask questions, get real support from us and thousands of other couples.
A private, supportive community
Foreplay, communication, desire, initiation, confidence, performance pressure, rediscovering intimacy as parents, and so much more.
Plus the entire library of our sex + relationship courses
Everything you need to start your reset on Monday, January 5th!
Instant access to the 21 Day Relationship Refresh
Trained on everything Vanessa’s ever taught. Get conversation scripts, custom action plans, and so much more.
Vanessa AI — your personal sex + relationship coach
Weekly and monthly support to keep your momentum going
Date nights, sex positions to explore, and bite-sized exercises, designed to keep you connected and curious about each other.
Choose your plan
✔ Cancel anytime before your next billing cycle — no awkward breakups required
(on sale now through December 26th!)
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(save over 35%!)
Everything inside Deeper
Deeper is the only membership designed to give you an instant, all-access pass to real, therapist-backed guidance on demand — so you can get expert strategies and tools for exactly what your relationship needs, exactly when you need it.
Private invitation for our exclusive online community
(a $240/year value)
🔥 The Ultimate Foreplay Guides – $69
🔥 The Art of Initiation – $89
🔥 The Ultimate Sex Guide – $99
🔥 Dirty Talk 101 – $69
🔥 Butt Stuff – $69
🔥 Rediscovering Us: Intimacy & Sex For Parents – $199
🔥 The Sexual Bucket List – $29
🔥 The Mental Load Workbook – $25
🔥 The Modern Man’s Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure – $249
🔥 Rediscovering Desire – $99
🔥 And so much more…
🔥 The Ultimate Foreplay Guides – $69
🔥 The Ultimate Sex Guide – $99
🔥 The Art of Initiation – $89
🔥 Rediscovering Us: Intimacy & Sex For Parents – $199
🔥 Dirty Talk 101 – $69
🔥 Butt Stuff – $69
🔥 Rediscovering Desire – $99
🔥 The Modern Man’s Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure – $249
🔥 The Sexual Bucket List – $29
🔥 The Mental Load Workbook – $25
🔥 Your Best Week Ever – $29
🔥 And so much more...
🔥 And so much more…
Vanessa AI — your personal sex & relationship coach
(a $1,200/year value)
With Vanessa AI, you’ll have access to everything Vanessa has ever taught — her courses, guides, podcasts, and teachings — available 24/7.
❌ 1-on-1 therapy with Vanessa would cost $1,500-$2,000 per session
✅ Instead, Deeper gives you access to her entire knowledge base, personalized to your questions and situation.
This is the next best thing to having an expert sex and relationship therapist on speed dial — without the hefty price tag.
Instant access to our core course library (an over $800+ value!)
Ongoing monthly benefits so you keep growing & connecting (a $199 value)
A judgment-free space to ask questions, share experiences, and celebrate wins.
Direct engagement from Vanessa + Xander plus our team — we’ll be inside the community, cheering you on, guiding conversations and offering insights.
A built-in support system of like-minded people who are committed to deepening their relationships — so you always have people who get it.
Real talk, real connection — whether you’re celebrating progress or working through challenges, this is your place to show up exactly as you are.
📝 Guided relationship check-Ins
💡 Bite-sized exercises
💞 Two monthly date night ideas – One cute, one sexy
And yes — the New Year, New Us: 21 Day Relationship Refresh is included for all members.
You can cancel anytime. But we think you’ll wanna stay.
We’ve helped hundreds of thousands of people transform their relationships through our courses, guides, and coaching.
The proof is in the passion.
Here’s what they’ve had to say about deeper:
Hey there — we’re Vanessa & Xander Marin.
Together, we help couples have way better sex and way deeper relationships — without shame, confusion, or pressure.
We built Deeper because we wanted this for ourselves.
We’ve gone through our own seasons of feeling disconnected, navigating mismatched libidos, and wondering: how do we actually make things better?
This membership is our answer. It’s the resource we wish we’d had!
AS SEEN IN:
Imagine this…
And the best part? You don’t have to figure it out alone anymore.
👉 Join Deeper today and start creating the relationship and sex life you truly deserve.
This is what’s possible inside Deeper.
You have questions. We have answers.
Your membership will automatically renew at the end of the billing cycle unless you let us know ahead of your next charge.
If you want to engage in the Deeper community but prefer to stay anonymous, choose a different name for yourself!
This is your experience, and you get to engage in whatever way feels right for you.
Let's recap one more time.
Here's everything you get...
The New Year, New Us Relationship Refresh - $99
Your Best Week Ever – $29
The Ultimate Foreplay Guides – $69
The Art of Initiation – $89
The Ultimate Sex Guide – $99
Dirty Talk 101 – $69
Butt Stuff – $69
Rediscovering Us: Intimacy & Sex For Parents – $199
The Sexual Bucket List – $29
The Mental Load Workbook – $25
The Modern Man’s Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure – $249
Rediscovering Desire – $99
Vanessa AI - $1,200
Private Community - $240
Monthly content drops - $199
Pick your plan & join today
Total Value: $2,763
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