Discover a whole new level of pleasure with

No more one-sided experiences. No more routine, predictable, or disappointing moments. The Ultimate Sex Guide is designed to help you and your partner unlock more pleasure, deeper intimacy, and unshakeable connection — every time. 

Get ready to experience sex that’s so good, you won’t believe you ever settled for less.

Maybe you go through with it, checking the box but not really feeling connected.
Maybe you try to get into it, but your mind is already on tomorrow’s to-dos.


Maybe you both just avoid the moment altogether and give an excuse, unsure how to bridge the gap.


When did sex start feeling like just another chore?

you know how it goes...

It’s late, you’re exhausted. The day has been a nonstop blur of emails, errands, and “what’s for dinner?” You juggled work, kids, laundry, and that never-ending to-do list. You finally collapse into bed, desperate for sleep…

And then… You feel it. Your partner reaching for you. 
Cue the hesitation.
The sigh.
The guilt.
The frustration.

When did something that’s supposed to feel so good start feeling like just another obligation?

Unfortunately, we know that for many couples in long term relationships, sex can be hard. 

How many times have you been lying there staring at the ceiling afterwards thinking, “Is this really all there is?”

You’re not the only one. 

For so many couples, sex slowly shifts from exciting to expected, from passionate to passive.

It becomes more about routine than connection, more about obligation than desire — especially for women.

There’s a sex crisis going on in bedrooms across the world…

“I can tell that my partner just wants it to be over when we’re in the middle of doing it.” 
“I find myself thinking about my to-do list more often than not.” 
“Is this really what sex is all about? Or are we missing something? It just feels disappointing…” 
“It feels one-sided, like he’s the only one who gets any pleasure or enjoyment out of it.”
“It’s embarrassing to admit how rarely we have it.”
“He seems to think that jackhammering is the best technique, but it just feels uncomfortable. Sometimes it’s even painful.”

For so many couples, sex becomes more about obligation than desire, more about habit than connection. 

If this is what your sex life looks like, you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. It’s not like we were ever taught HOW to have great sex, right? 

Well, not until now…

These are the kinds of thoughts that linger — and as time goes on, you feel yourselves drifting further and further apart. 

Here are some of the ways we’ve heard sex described:

Uncover the secrets to passion and pleasure with

With 42 beautifully illustrated positions, troubleshooting tips, a comprehensive workbook, and even printable position play cards, you’ll both get to explore just how incredible sex can be — and how much closer it can bring you as a couple. 

The Ultimate Sex Guide is your roadmap to unlocking a new level of physical intimacy and connection. 

Inside The Ultimate Sex Guide, you’ll discover…
What each position is best for and why, including our recommended (and tested!) sequences. Plus, extra special combinations of positions that take the guesswork out of getting down to business. From a night of romance to a fun quickie, you’ll find an adventure to match your mood.
How to maximize pleasure for both partners — especially for women. Studies show that 91% of women say intercourse isn’t their favorite activity because it often doesn’t prioritize their pleasure. We’ll show you how to change that so both of you enjoy every moment.

Step-by-step instructions for how to get in and out of each position. No more awkward moments where it feels like your bodies just don’t fit together.
EXACTLY how to move (i.e. where to place your arms and legs and what to do with your hips) so you can feel confident and actually be in the moment instead of thinking, “What do I do now?"
Ways to adjust each position to make it work for your unique bodies, so every experience feels just right.
How to keep each position feeling fresh with exciting variations so your sex life stays hot and full of possibilities.
The illustrations in our guide are tasteful, playful, and inclusive. They’re detailed without being pornographic. Most importantly, they’re genuinely useful! No questions, uncertainty, or confusion here. Just plenty of inspiration to bring you closer together than ever.

Are you ready

to have the kind of sex you that feels too good to be true? 

Worried The Ultimate Sex Guide won’t work for you? 

The Ultimate Sex Guide isn’t just a collection of tips and tricks — it’s a proven playbook designed to help real people achieve real intimacy. No fluff or impossible positions, just judgement-free, clear guidance and techniques to wildly improve your sex life! 

After working with thousands of couples and more than two decades in the sex and relationship therapy field, we know exactly what it takes to help couples reignite their connection and take their mutual pleasure to a whole new level.

That’s exactly why we created this guide. 

If you’re in a place where you feel like nothing can change…We get it. Maybe you’ve tried talking about it, but the conversations felt embarrassing, awkward, and went nowhere. 

Or you’ve turned to Google and ended up with advice that was either too generic to help or positions that look like you need to be an acrobat to pull off. So frustrating. 

Without the right tools or guidance, so many couples settle for “good enough” instead of the mind-blowing connection they truly crave. 

Hear from real couples just like you…

Sex is one of the most intimate things you get to do with your partner, and you both deserve to have an incredible experience!

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How female pleasure and orgasm REALLY work (FYI: most male-female couples are doing it wrong)

How to close the orgasm gap and understand that there is a gap to begin with (because it’s about damn time!)

How to tie all of these elements together to create a mind-blowing and toe-curling sexual experience

How to approach sex in a way that satisfies BOTH partners

Imagine how your relationship would flourish if both of you know: 

The Ultimate Sex Guide gives away all the secrets!

You both feel completely in sync helping your relationship outside the bedroom.
You understand each other’s needs and communicate openly (without feeling awkward).
You’re having the kind of sex that leaves you both glowing and wanting more.

Fast forward to a future where…

The Ultimate Sex Guide is yours for $99

Money-Back Guarantee: If you're not satisfied, we offer 5-day money-back guarantee — no questions asked. 

Here’s what you’ll get with The Ultimate Sex Guide

Ultimate Positions Guide: 42 sexy positions with illustrations, what it’s great for, and how to move in and out of each position.

Making Sex Work: A comprehensive and research-backed module with our best guidance on how to take a new approach that will leave you both craving it again and again.  

Troubleshooting: Navigating orgasmic timing, how many positions to use and when, aftercare tips, and how to make sex with your partner the best you’ve ever had.

Workbook: To record your favorite positions and make notes for the future.

Truth Bombs: The secrets about what women REALLY need when it comes to sex and how to prioritize her pleasure — Let’s close that orgasm gap!

Expert Tips and Suggestions: Get answers for common sexual hiccups like how to find your thrusting rhythm when you’re out of sync, and what to do if you're self-conscious about being on top.

Audio: We’ve transformed our best insights into AUDIO modules for you! It’s everything you’d want to know — but never learned — about having better sex, all in an easy, listen-anytime format. Pop in your earbuds, and let us break down what really makes intimacy incredible.

It’s time to stop settling for “good enough” and start creating the kind of intimacy you’ve always wanted. 

And we’re serving up all of these secrets inside the guide! 

How do you navigate orgasmic timing so both partners are satisfied?
How long should it last each time? (There’s even a bonus section with tips about how to make it last longer!)
How often should you and your partner aim to have sex?
How many different positions should you try?

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We even break down some of the most common sex questions couples have but are too embarrassed to ask anyone (even Google!) like:
We asked our community, “What could your partner do to make sex the best you’ve ever had?” The answers were absolutely fascinating, filled with specific tricks, techniques, and secrets they wished their partner knew.

Spilling the Tea

Hi! We're Vanessa & Xander.

Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with degrees in human sexuality and psychology. 

Xander is a regular dude with a fresh perspective.

Together they show couples that it’s possible to get more comfortable and confident talking about sex.

You’re getting actionable advice from a real sex therapist in a long-term relationship.

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Imagine your relationship feeling effortless and exciting — like you’re speaking the same language in and out of the bedroom. A space where you feel seen, heard, and totally satisfied. You’re actually looking forward to sex, because you know it will be playful, deeply connecting, and downright incredible. 

now it’s time to ask yourself…

What if everything changes?

It’s a question that you’ve been trying to ignore for a while now… But you know deep down… Staying stuck where you are is only going to create more distance. Another month or years of awkward experiences, unmet needs, and feeling like something’s missing. That’s not the kind of connection you deserve, and it doesn’t have to stay this way. 

What if nothing changes?

This isn’t just about having better sex (though you will!). It's about transforming your relationship, discovering your true desires, and building the kind of connection that will make you stronger together than ever. 
That’s exactly what The Ultimate Sex Guide can help you create. 

Now that's romance.

The Ultimate Sex Guide is the ultimate intimacy upgrade! 

FAQs

Do I need a ton of time and energy to commit to this? 

We know that couples have a lot of commitments such as children, jobs, and family responsibilities. We believe investing in your relationship takes time, but we take a no-nonsense approach to all of our resources so you gain valuable insights even if you can commit just ten minutes a day.

Will this be awkward or uncomfortable for us?

We get it! Sex is a really vulnerable subject, especially if it’s something you never speak about as a couple. The Ultimate Sex Guide is designed to make these conversations less awkward and more empowering. Think of it as a toolkit for building intimacy and connection. The guide is packed with practical tips and real-world examples that make it easier to open up and get comfortable. It's like having a trusted friend guiding you through the journey of enhancing your sex life — minus the awkwardness!

View our guide on How to Talk to Your Partner About The Ultimate Sex Guide for simple, easy scripts to help you ease into the conversation.

Is this really worth the investment or can I find this information on the internet for free?

The Ultimate Sex Guide isn't just a random collection of tips you might stumble across on a late-night Google search. It's a carefully curated, comprehensive resource that's been crafted with time and expertise. 

Think of it as having a personal coach guiding you through the nuances of intimacy, with actionable steps and real-world examples you won't find in a quick online article. While you might find bits and pieces here and there, this guide is your all-in-one ticket to a more connected and fulfilling love life. 

We take great care to be as inclusive as possible. That means representation for all ability levels, gender identities, orientations, races, body shapes, and sizes.

We’ve included suggestions for all types of partnerships, body shapes, and ability levels. If you’re pregnant, not very flexible, or living in a larger body — we’ve got you covered.

Some of the content in The Ultimate Sex Guide is geared specifically toward cisgender male & female couples, but most of the information can be helpful to anyone who wants to build a stronger sexual connection with their partner.

Inclusivity is important!

Grab The Ultimate Sex Guide now and unlock the secrets to unbelievable sex for both of you!

Sex doesn’t have to be an anxiety-inducing, one-sided affair…

Get ready to take the guesswork out of improving your sex life and learn everything you need to feel more connected, confident, and incredibly satisfied in the bedroom.